Phew! January came and went in the blink of an eye,
and I was only able to crank out one blog!
I had many ponderings this month due to all the experiences, and old thoughts
were rekindled such as, although time seems to fly, it never travels faster
than one day at a time. So we are given the opportunity with each new day to
live life to the fullest. In each new waking
day, there are scores of blessings and opportunities for positive change.
With that
said I have chosen to not let my “TODAY” be stolen by the
unchangeable past or the indefinite future!
Today is a new day! Nothing made
this clearer than the loss of several family members in the month of
January. It was a not so gentle
reminder as to how very precious family is, and to remember those we love can
never be more than a thought away, for as long as there is a memory they live
in our hearts forever.
Family ties
are defined as: a primary
social group consisting of parents and their offspring, the principal function
of which is provision for its members. I found this interesting, family is so much
more! It’s Aunts, Uncles, Grand Parents, Great Grand Parents, and close friends
who are like our family. As they say it really does take a village.
I think that
most of us can agree that who we are and the things we have in our lives are
inherited from our ancestors. I am not
sure if we should thank them or berate them. But I do know that when we lose
someone from our inner circle, whether they are friend or family, we feel a
deep sense of loss as well as remorse. And I observed at close hand that
everyone copes differently. Some cry for
the loss of a loved one, some smile because of their deep faith and because
they know they will see them again. And
then some are angry and are determined to find some reason or justification for
the loss of the loved one.
It is all a
mystery of the human psyche as to how each person copes with the loss. The only
thing I can say with certainty is that the loss of a loved one is the most
tragic and devastating thing a person can endure. I always find comfort in Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
To everything there is a season, and a
time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die; a
time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; A time to kill,
and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; A time to
weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; A time to cast
away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a
time to refrain from embracing; A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to
keep, and a time to cast away; A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to
keep silence, and a time to speak; A time to love, and a time to hate; a time
of war, and a time of peace.
My take away from life experience this past
month: getting over the loss of someone is a grieving process; we grieve
because we love. Everyone has to be allowed to process the loss and deal with
it in their own way. There are no rules, no right or wrong way to act and we
must not judge others. We must let them
mourn their loss, experience their pain, and when they are ready, they will let
it go, and begin to live again. Remember
that words are extremely powerful, healing and can bring great support, so just
be there.
On a lighter note, my family celebrates
the Chinese New Year for my Granddaughter to celebrate her heritage. So Happy
New Year!
Lucky Colors:
brown, red, purple. Lucky Numbers: 2, 7, Lucky Flowers:
carnation, primrose, Year of Birth: 1919, 1931, 1943, 1955, 1967, 1979,
1991, 2003, 2015
